Is It Love or Is It Addiction? Transformative Book on Modern Romance & Relationships - Perfect for Couples Therapy, Self-Help & Psychology Enthusiasts

I had been involved in a relationship with one woman I believe is 'beautiful and sensuous', but soon found myself reeling under an extremely co-dependent relationship where I tried to define my life values through her eyes. In spite of red-flags, we kept 'seeping under', we found it difficult to get over our urges to contact/control each-other even when the relationship was over, and she had started dating other guys. As I realized that I was in a co-dependent relationship, I decided to fix it, I bought quite a few books on the subject. So far this is the best I have come across.A very tersely written book that concentrates on what is right rather than giving several examples of what is wrong. What I find best about this book is that it attacks the distinction of love and addiction discussed in the most scientific viewpoint rather than from a purely behaviourial/psychological aspect. Of course it has all the definitions and explanations, but it never encouraged to 'spoonfeed' the solution. It rather created a background understanding of the problem from a clinical and philosophical aspect. It religiously encouraged clearing the concepts, and quite rightly, once the concepts are cleared the mistakes and solutions were just clear to see.I am a scientist by profession and would not accept any argument without a chain of reasons supporting it (in that way, you can say I have a co-dependency on 'reasoning':)). I was finding it difficult to just 'eat-up' the solutions and recommendations presented by the other highly-rated books, until this book reached me, and taught me how rationally analyse such problems and create our own healthy set of recommendations instead of co-depending on books to recommend us.